Family dilemma? what would you do....?

sometimes as hard as it is, you have to let go, even if they are family.. you as a mother yourself, would you really want to subject your child to what you went through? if your parents were horrible to you, do you think they will any different towards your child? if your father ually abused you, do you think you can trust your child with them, especially when your mother doesn't believe you? im sorry if i am being harsh, but pedophilia is pedophilia...it is a sickness that does not sort out a child that "shouldn't be touched, or a child that should be." you left at an early age because you knew nothing was right about what your parents put you through. as a mother it is your job to make sure nothing like that happens to your own child. if you really want to establish a relationship with them, then i suggest family outings in public. unless they are those types of people who are embarring regardless of where they are. always have supervised visits. but make it clear that as much as you love and care for them, you are only interacting with them at a social level for the sake of their grandchild, keep your personal life private, as if it not regarding their grandchild, you are not going to answer. nothing more, nothing less.